Resolutions You Can Stick To

1. Be consistent with discipline
Step one: Set boundaries and limits for kids and set a discipline plan. Step two: Stick to it. If you don’t follow through with the rules and consequences you establish, your kids probably won’t either. Consistency, like routines, is healthy for kids; it makes them feel safe and secure. Consistent discipline methods (presuming they are respectful and healthy) let children know what is expected and make it easier for them to make choices that are successful, says Kathy Lynn, a Vancouver-based parenting educator and Today’s Parent contributor. That’s not to say that [once a plan is established] they will never misbehave, just that they will know what will happen if they do. What’s your discipline style?

2. Stop shouting
Have you ever heard yourself yelling, How many times have I told you not to leave your shoes at the front door? Don’t make me ask you again. Lynn says a healthy discipline plan just doesn’t include shouting or nagging. If we know how we’re going to respond to our children’s behaviour, we won’t get to the point of raising our voice. Don’t forget to be patient. Understand that your kids will push the limits, and it’s your job to get them back on track, Lynn says.

3. Invest in family time
Let’s face it: We’re busier than ever today, so busy we’re spending more time commuting, working, running to hockey games, ballet, swimming lessons, etc., than sharing quality time with family. So pick one night a week and make it family fun night. Play a board game, watch a movie, go for a walk; whatever you choose, you’ll feel better about doing something together.

4. Invest in me time
That’s right; mark a little ME time in your day planner. Mothers have a habit of putting themselves and their needs last on their lengthy to-do lists. Take up ceramics, join a Pilates class, go for a manicure, read a book, relax in a hot bath: You’ll feel better physically and mentally, and you’ll be happier and more relaxed when family time rolls around.

5. Monitor your kids’ Internet use
It’s true; the World Wide Web does offer hundreds of thousands of pages of facts, figures, study references and educational and interactive games, not to mention the not-so-educational fun stuff. But your kids need to understand that it can also be a dangerous place. With cyber-bullying on the rise, it’s imperative for you to know what your kids are spending their time looking at online. While you don’t need to look over their shoulders when they’re surfing, ask lots of questions about sites they’re visiting and monitor their use.

By Lisa Goldman
Originally published on Today’s Parent